Prince Charming is asking you to the Royal Ball. Of course, you say yes. If only he would have asked you sooner. Now you only have 3 days to pick out your gown. Little did you know, that you could have asked him yourself.

Many of us assume that guys have to be the ones to ask the girls to school dances. “It’s always been a tradition for guys to ask girls,” said Wyatt Cunningham (10). The way it has always been done, will always be the way it is done. It only makes sense to let the man take charge, at least for these old fashioned thinkers.

Of course, there are situations where it is completely acceptable for girls to ask the guy. Sadie Hawkin’s Dance was created by cartoonist Al Capp in 1938 for just that reason. Said Alyssa Ford (10), “Sadies is known as girls asking guys, homecoming isn’t really known as that.” Most girls wait their time and only step out of the box on this specific day.

Mackenzie Byers (10) said, “My boyfriend asked me ‘Why don’t you ask me, instead of me asking you?’ I guess girls just kind of expect to be asked. But I think it’d be really cool if a girl went out of her way to do it.” There are no clear cut rules when it comes to relationships. Society formed our minds to think a certain way, but our views have begun to shift. Why not change the way we look at gender roles in our own lives? “Personally, I think it’s a good idea [for girls to ask guys]. It shouldn’t just be up to the guys to ask, it can be equal,” said Dillon Johnson (12).

Great deals of guys don’t understand the pressures that come with being asked. Lauren Ross (12) said, “I don’t know how to react. Do I act surprised because you usually know [if someone’s going to ask you].” To capture a true reaction, I fictitiously asked a guy to Homecoming. “It made me feel kind of like tense cause I didn’t know how you’d react to it. I didn’t want you to be sad or mad about it. It was kind of an awkward situation. Girls always have guys ask them to Homecoming, so I was kind of surprised by it” (Anonymous).

Asking someone to a dance is such a fun experience that everyone should take part. Your heart beats fast as the adrenaline pumps through your veins. The relief and elation that rushes over you when they say “yes,” is immense. Take the risk and put yourself out there.

No longer do you have to sit around in your castle waiting for Prince Charming- you simply have a choice to go out and find him yourself. Climb down from your tower, hop on a horse, and fight a dragon. Ladies, it’s your turn to take charge.