Grade wars and how they negatively impact self esteem
April 19, 2019
You walk in to math class, nervously anticipating to find out what your final grade is on the last exam. Everyone gets their papers back, some exclaim, comparing their grades that seem to be quite high. You finally get your test back, and a waterfall of dread washes over your face. You barely passed. You begin to calm yourself down when suddenly you friend asks you,”Hey,what did you get?!” with a smile on their face. You lie and say you got an A, but the feelings of guilt and jealousy flood your senses yet again.
Throughout the years, as teens develop their personality and mentality, they change themselves drastically to fit certain standards, which therefore results in a loss of necessary self esteem. Students lose confidence in their abilities and in their future. This lack of confidence for having a successful future results in stunts in academic progress which is a currently a serious issue, especially in local High Schools. The never ending competition for who gets an “A” and who doesn’t only damages the student mindset. But a lack of self esteem is something that seems hard to improve, however it is certainly not impossible. People feel under confident walking through the hallways daily in an environment as competitive as high school. Students could lose confidence because of their supposed “social status” or amount of A’s they currently have. The most important thing is for students and staff to make students feel as comfortable as possible, regardless of their personality or academic ability to help everyone’s self esteem.
But there are also other ways to keep calm when feeling overwhelmed maintaining good grades along with preparing for final exams and SAT’s. The first is to remember that the type of college you go to does not have as much importance as you think. Many students spend years trying to get into their favorite college, which is great, but not the only option. If you go to a college that is not ranked the best, but still has the classes you need to succeed, there is no problem with it at all. After all, it is better to do well at a less famous college rather than struggle with the workload of a more advanced college.
Another important thing to remember is to have fun with high school activities and events. You might think that it is never beneficial to waste time with recreational things, but this is extremely important for mental health. If you are under less stress, you will feel happier and more comfortable in your regular environment. Your self esteem will probably improve, so this is an essential thing not to forget.
It is natural for people to always care about the opinions of their fellow peers, and the most logical approach for maintaining self esteem is remembering that in ten years, you won’t even talk to most of your classmates. People in high school are quick to judge, but it is always more important to do your best rather than focus your energy on pleasing others.
Raj Hans Gupta • Dec 30, 2019 at 3:09 pm
Grading is to stay here till something less damaging replaces the present system. Intensive counseling is required to channelise the potential of a young person.
Robert Frost mocks the anomaly of judging the worth of an individual by irrelevant standards in Two Tramps in Mud Time.
The article highlights the psychological fallout of a rigid frame: how the need to fit a round peg in a square hole might stunt the growth of one’s personality.
Tyler Freeman • Sep 26, 2019 at 9:15 am
Very good article that I can relate to. I think that this is a very good and current topic to talk about. It seems as though that students always stress out over tests and exams, including myself. I do not believe in taking tests or exams, especially so often throughout the year, and I’m not because I’m a student. I don’t think taking tests really show how much a student understands a certain topic. Since there is so much pressure on getting a good grade on a test and the fear of your parents getting upset due to the fact you did bad on a test is very unhealthy for a student.
Trintin Wallace • Sep 25, 2019 at 11:16 am
People all across the world feel low esteem when it comes to grades because it makes them feel dumb or not smart like everyone else.When kids get grades from test,exams or quizzes people feel sad or dumb when they get a lower score then everyone else but i think they should feel great. In not saying to feel great to get a zero or lower than 50 that just mean you should improve and get better and shows you tired and that what matter most.
Olivia Coughlin • Sep 25, 2019 at 12:53 am
I very much agree with this article. Students are more than just scores and marks- and this article portrays that well! I feel that it’s important for students not to get too wound up in the school system to the point where their mental health is damaged. I wish the school system would take this issue into more consideration, but until then I hope we all find ways to handle it. Wonderful article! This problem needs more recognition.
Harry Warford • Sep 24, 2019 at 6:46 pm
I am aware that stuff like this can affect a teen’s mental health.
But, regardless of self-esteem, getting the information you need to survive is more important. Sometimes, where someone would go to college doesn’t really matter, and it can be a question of what umpty-ump can afford. Also, this competition thing gets more emphasis than what it really needs though ubiquitous. The bottom line of this discussion is a teen’s mental health is paramount to everything and it could affect his ability to learn and pick stuff up.
Grace Culp • Sep 24, 2019 at 2:51 pm
I think that getting a bad grade is just one tiny part that may affect your self-esteem. The pressures of high school, the teachers and your peers all make this place more stressful. From personal experience, I stopped asking questions because my teacher and my peers would mock me. “I just did that problem” in a sarcastic tone. Okay, well I didn’t understand it, so can you show me again? Or peers would laugh. Like, sorry I’m not a math person? This impacted my mental health and my grade felt the punch too.
Brayden • Sep 24, 2019 at 2:25 pm
This article was written very well. The first part about finding out what your exam grade was is relatable. I believe schools should focus more in the students best ability rather than the grade system. This article was good because it gave examples on why students get god grades and why they don’t.
Chris D • Sep 24, 2019 at 2:11 pm
I do not think grades give anxiety. I think that people give the grades too much power instead of just accepting them for what they are. The more you fret and worry it is not the grade creating the problem it is you. In the first example of the student barely passing but everyone else doing well. The student creates thinks that socially he will be judged instead of being happy for a passing grade.
Ce'Nedra Harner • Sep 24, 2019 at 1:50 pm
Competing to get A’s should not be what school is about. I agree that it damages students with this never-ending competition which makes them go insane trying to be the best. You see I’m one of those people who have to get good grades because my mom wants me to go to college. It is hard to have good grades and a life, especially considering the endless amount of homework. Students try to get an A but when they don’t they worry about what their peers think, what their teachers think, what their parents think, what everyone thinks. They wonder if they tried hard enough or if they’re just cursed. I believe that if a student tries and I mean truly tries just that should be good enough for people.
Adam Brouwer • Sep 24, 2019 at 1:23 pm
I agree what you are saying in this a lot. Grades objectify the worth a student which are deserved based off the work and merit of the student but I think it is a flawed system. This is coming from someone who has A, and B’s and I don’t feel like my worth as a student is correctly represented by those letters. The peer pressure that comes with is also stressing but sometimes is healthy, having the idea that you need to do well to impress your peers is motivating, especially in group projects. I like what you said about collage as well how it feels much safer doing a easier collage and not pushing yourself to look good to your peers.
Lucia Smith • Sep 24, 2019 at 1:22 pm
I agree with all the points made in this article. I think that you should not let your grades effect your self esteem. I just think its bad for your mentality. Also I do not think that a bad grade on a quiz or a test should determine how smart you are in that subject. Overall, I believe grade wars should not even exist.
Haley Foreman • Sep 24, 2019 at 1:13 pm
This article addresses one of the main issues in high school teens. I think it helps to calm the mind of teens struggling with their grades. It also helps with stress over what college to choose. Even if your classmates do better than you on a test doesn’t mean you should stress. This article is great for helping teens cope with their stress with their grades.
Mec'asia Smith • Sep 24, 2019 at 11:59 am
I feel that grades and student self-esteem are a direct correlation. In the past years I had always associated my worth as a student with how well I was doing in school. When I got a bad grade on an assignment, it would put me off for the rest of the day and become the highlight of my my thoughts. Recently I’ve learned to let go of this high standard that I was holding to myself, and it has impacted my mental health drastically. I no longer worry about whether or not my grades are good compared to others. Instead I make sure my grades are a representation of my efforts that I’m giving in school. Not only has this change in thought process helped me mentally, but it also has helped me academically.
Allie Barker • Sep 24, 2019 at 10:09 am
I love this article! I really believe this article feels like it is speaking clearly for the student body. I personally have struggled with this and I believe that you are providing a powerful voice for those who are too shy or not ready to speak up about this. Grades bringing down students self esteem is a real problem. I appreciate that you took the time to write this article because this issue should not be over looked. Keep up the good work!
Jason Koch • Sep 24, 2019 at 9:08 am
This topic is a great one to touch on. It is very relevant and is more and more noticeable through the school years. I liked what you did with different examples and reasons, to relate the most people. There were also excellent points of advice provided to help prevent this sort of thing. This could be a little more cut and dry; clear and concise, but all in all a good debatable topic.
Caitlin Sullivan • Sep 24, 2019 at 8:45 am
I think that grades more affect students stress than that of self-esteem. Most people in my classes have been very blatant in showing their grades and if anything people get more stressed than insecure about grades. Stress I think comes up more with grades only because everyone ends up stressing over the fact to keep their grades up or not let them fall any further than they may already be. In the end I think that stress is more impactive than lowering ones self esteem.