We often find ourselves reduced to our token minority existence, and feel we have to satisfy and answer every question of our minority existence, but we’re more than the ignorant words that come our way. (Illustration by Kylie Clifton)
We often find ourselves reduced to our token minority existence, and feel we have to satisfy and answer every question of our minority existence, but we’re more than the ignorant words that come our way.

Illustration by Kylie Clifton

Tackling tokenism: minorities should never be reduced to our trauma

January 3, 2021

Kylie Clifton

I just turned 18, it’s my senior year, and the end of November is right around the corner.

Yes that’s right, if we do the math it’s none other than the season of giv-


But I’m not worried, I have a secret weapon.

I’m one of the first out and proud transgender students in a small midwestern town.

Yes, I’m a minority. That’s right, I said the word.

From what I understand it’s a scary word for some. It’s one of the words I feel I’m never supposed to say.

After all, you don’t want to make the privileged majority uncomfortable.

They know you exist, are proud to say they know one of you, but never want to talk about your minority existence unless it is convenient for them.

They’ll ask invasive questions, attempt compliments, and use stereotypical lingo, doing whatever they can to grasp my different experience like its charity work. 







They’re uneducated, and I can’t always blame them for that. Still, I  shouldn’t have to educate them on my community, and I shouldn’t allow myself to be objectified for my experiences. 

I’m not an oddity or a curiosity or the newest exhibit at a gallery of novel and interesting things. Yes, I am a minority when it comes to my experience, but not visually, so what really makes a minority?

I transitioned young and am lucky to be exempt from male features, so I can effectively “blend in” to majority cisgender society. Am I still a minority? Yes, because my experience is always in question, by the government, “loved” ones, and strangers.

I often find myself discounting my own experience because I’m both supported and privileged. I am still a white female, transition or not. I’m what you call “unclockable”: I essentially benefit from collective society by blending in. I “pass” easily as a woman.  If I don’t look transgender, they can forget that I am. They don’t have to reckon with anything that doesn’t appear normal to them. While some biracial individuals can gain privilege from being “white passing,” many people of color cannot escape or hide their minority existence. Even in my difference, I am privileged in ways they are not. 

The minority experience is an abstract and uncertain measure of a variety of factors, an important one being location. In my community, especially within my school community, there is a relatively small number number of openly LGBTQ+ and transgender individuals, of which I am one of the most well-known, largely due to the combination of my school leadership roles and my openness and willingness to talk about “uncomfortable” issues. There is responsibility in this. There is occasionally frustration in this. There is loneliness in this. 

What if I weren’t the token minority? What if I lived in a time or place where so many people were in the same position as me, my tokenism and isolated experience would perish? This begs the question, are some minorities more oppressed than others? Despite the statistics, can minority experience be measured?

Comedian, author, and 2 Dope Queens co-podcaster Phoebe Robinson is a champion for black women and has lived the collective experience of being suppressed as a minority and woman of color. Robinson elaborates on her experience in a 2016 Elle interview, where she states: “Black women are aware of how they’re viewed and how they’re treated, especially now that certain schools are banning black students from wearing braids and dreadlocks or afros. Black women are constantly being told that what they’re doing is not okay, that how they look naturally is not okay.”

Minorities shouldn’t have to escape and hide their minority status in order to fit in, but we’re often given no choice but to blend in.

I want to stand up for myself. I know that I don’t owe anyone anything, and that I have the ability to refuse uneducated comments…but I don’t. I wonder, what if nobody else will answer their questions? What if they never ask anyone else? There is a weight of great responsibility that comes with representation: I feel like I’m required to respond. 

And so I answer their condescending questions, one after another, holding tight to the hope that maybe, just maybe, this act of service will change the way they see through the lens of their ignorance.

I will always be proud to be fully honest about my experience transitioning, but the reason I’m completely honest isn’t just for me: I’ve made that decision for my safety. I wouldn’t feel safe keeping such a big secret out of fear of the backlash that it could cause, but it shouldn’t be that way. As complicated as it may be for others, it’s really quite simple: I was born with the wrong gender assignment, so I embarked on a long and difficult journey to arrive at my correct gender expression. This shouldn’t be a deal breaker.

We should never feel required to broadcast our journey and experience as minorities in exchange for safety and security in the majority’s world.

The cisgender and white majority population have their own personal struggles, but they aren’t belittled, discounted, assaulted, and killed for them. Though I’ve been incredibly fortunate, I still live in fear. 

According to Forbes, the abuse and killing of transgender people isn’t an insignificant reality, but an increasing one. Diversity and Inclusion LGBTQ+ reporter Jamie Wareham writes for Forbes, “350 transgender people were killed this year (2020), in a figure that has risen since last year’s total of 331.”

They applaud us when we’ve succeeded in a world apparently not made for us. They’re happy to shed a tear at our feel-good stories about how we’ve overcome adversity, but never want to talk about the weight of our accomplishments. It’s clear that our existence only benefits them when we succeed, when we are undeniably exceptional, and when we are, we do them another favor: overshadow the violence, abuse, and negative statistics that plague our communities. 

When you’re a minority, particularly in the token role, you give part of yourself to them. For what we’ve faced we could defy the world and build a new one, but we are given the meager opportunity to survive, not thrive. Under the societal expectations created by the majority, we’re forced to lock our trauma and experiences deep inside, only reaching for the key when it’s convenient, when we have permission, when we’re asked to speak. We’re allowed to share the easier facets of our story: what your new closet looks like, how much you love skirts, how thankful you are for your newfound existence. 

The rest stays under lock and key. I’ve kept the most personal parts of my story to myself, only sharing with trusted supporters, therapists, and most importantly, my four legged friends.

Only now, in the pivotal season of college applications, will my vault finally be unlocked.

After years of self-reflecting, feeling alone, and having constant interactions with people who were ignorant at best and transphobic at worst, I can finally flex my minority status in one thing and one thing only: the personal essay. The place where society collectively exposes their deepest and darkest of traumas. Naturally, the most deep and touching wins the gold.

I may be particularly jaded by 2020, but throughout the college application process, I started feeling more and more that this wasn’t post-secondary education’s way of honoring students with diverse backgrounds, but rather an attempt to force students to leverage their worst and most painful experiences, only to be seen and validated by a stranger. Some of us might not even be ready to deal with the pain of these experiences, but we’ve been conditioned to believe that writing it all out in 650 words or less is necessary to stand out in the highly-competitive crowd of college applicants. 

When it came down to my essay, I didn’t encompass all of my pain. Instead, I decided to celebrate the day I finally knew my truth.

It wasn’t easy, and it certainly wasn’t all rainbows and sunshine, but I’m incredibly proud of the story I shared.

I could have flexed my minority muscles and shared my worst most traumatizing experience, but I didn’t want to. There have certainly been painful moments and setbacks, but those traumatic and sad moments dictated by other people do not define my story. 

We need to tell our stories on our own merit and decision, not to fit a mold or brag sheet for some large collegiate institution. Minorities are so much more than the sum of the obstacles that we’ve had to overcome by no fault of our own. Our existence does not exist to entertain the majority. 

We don’t wake up everyday facing our struggles to satisfy the curiosity of tourists on the other side of the glass. 

We are not zoo animals. 

We don’t do tricks to validate our presence. 

We aren’t yours to dissect. 

We are human beings, trying to live and coexist in a world not made for us.

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    Guadalupe MataFeb 5, 2021 at 10:49 pm

    Thank you for sharing your journey. I applaud you! The positivity you took when you were writing that college essay. Great job.

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    James CardenJan 30, 2021 at 9:57 am

    Wow! What a fantastic article. Thank you for sharing your story

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    noscha jettJan 7, 2021 at 3:15 pm

    wow. the opening with the quotes… omg all I can say is wow that was powerful

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    Gavin GarnerJan 7, 2021 at 12:41 pm

    I love the personal touches you added to this piece. Very good work!

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    Morgan BrooksJan 7, 2021 at 11:05 am

    This piece should be a huge confidence booster to all the minorities out there and a really big eye-opener for the ignorant majority. This article empowers minorities and educates the majority. This piece is GOLD.

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    Lucy M.Jan 7, 2021 at 7:38 am

    Your use of italics and capitals really put your voice in my head!

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    Miles SlocumJan 6, 2021 at 9:01 pm

    I think you did a great job not holding back, and you didn’t leave anything out

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    Olivia CoughlinJan 6, 2021 at 2:00 pm

    Priceless piece yet again Kylie! You shed light on so many things that I’d never even thought about before while adding your own personal intake and experience on it, and that, I think, is what makes your writing so unique. Thank you for your vulnerability, and the opportunities you give us to learn. Wonderful job!!

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    Lizzie SheldonJan 6, 2021 at 12:53 pm

    This article is amazing Kylie! I often read your articles and your writing style is one that I look up to. The way you tell a story, from your choice of words to how you organize each sentence, never fails to evoke emotion. Thank you for sharing your experiences and thoughts on this topic that is hardly ever addressed. Your article gave me a new perspective outside of my own. Great work!

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    Melissah Morris-AdkinsJan 6, 2021 at 12:34 pm

    I love how much passion I could feel in your writing. Just the passion alone that you put into it made me want to keep reading.

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    Kai PenningtonJan 6, 2021 at 12:29 pm

    I love that she was able to say her mind and be honest about things shes experienced. Being able to talk openly about racisism, sexism, and even homophobia is something not many are willing to do due to the backlash and I am glad this article is now out in the world!

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    Cerena ReadJan 6, 2021 at 12:28 pm

    I am blown away and in awe of the obvious reflection you took in yourself in order to write this article. You are helping to educate the less knowledgeable and enlighten the ignorant of your situation. Sharing this story is extremely vulnerable but I hope also liberating. I am so astonished by your captivating voice and way of thinking that I am in turn inspired to write more passionately in my next personal article. I am so proud of you and you are amazing!

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    ArushiJan 6, 2021 at 12:27 pm

    I thought your article was very well written and clearly extremely passionate. I really like how this article serves as not only a narrative, but also a powerful statement of encouragement for standing up for yourself and your beliefs in that world that constantly wants to push you down.

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    Emily MacaulayJan 6, 2021 at 12:25 pm

    “They applaud us when we’ve succeeded in a world apparently not made for us” — brilliantly said.

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    Allie MillerJan 6, 2021 at 12:25 pm

    This piece is absolutely amazing Kylie! I love that you chose to delve into a topic that I think we all have been guilty of in some way or another, whether we realize it or not. It’s clear how passionate you are in all of your pieces, but this one truly stands out!

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    Sloan M.Jan 6, 2021 at 12:17 pm

    This is such a powerful article. Speak your mind and never let the world tell you where you belong. This was amazing! Great Job Kylie!

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    Brie QuickJan 6, 2021 at 12:16 pm

    Absoluetly Amazing! I love how you added your own personal experiences and thoughts!

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    Avery BogemannJan 6, 2021 at 12:15 pm

    This was an amazing article, I respect how you spoke your mind on LGBTQ+ issues, as someone who is part of the community I’m glad you said a lot of the things you did!

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    AveryJan 6, 2021 at 12:15 pm

    This was an amazing article, I respect how you spoke your mind on LGBTQ+ issues, as someone who is part of the community I’m glad you said a lot of the things you did!

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    Katie KnightJan 6, 2021 at 12:14 pm

    This is such a great piece, Kylie! I really liked your lede (it was super engaging).

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    Astrid CodeJan 6, 2021 at 12:11 pm

    Thank you so much Kylie for this article, its so well written and such an important topic to discuss. I think you captured the nuance of this issue so well, acceptance is usually only granted to minorities that conform the majority’s worldview, so a lot of support is performative.